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krikketgirl ([personal profile] krikketgirl) wrote2011-07-18 07:48 am

Patterns

I got so much accomplished yesterday! All of the tasks accomplished were little things, but they added up to a lot.

As I've been unpacking the jumble of boxes that seem to never end, I've been thinking a lot about patterns. Over time, we all develop ruts in life--well-traveled places that we use over and over because they work or because, at some point, they worked. Part of the problem with ruts, of course, is that when circumstances change or life changes or you change, those ruts are still there. And because they're easy to follow, they remain even when they no longer work.

That's how moving has been. When we moved into our old house, I had a toddler and was expecting a second child. The house saw us through the birth of our youngest, through my staying at home, working part-time, working full-time, going to school. Every stage came with its accumulations and its adjustments to patterns, but because life flows so swiftly, few of those patterns were thought about with any real eye to their effectiveness.

But then, as our life has been upended and swirled and shaken, it has been a golden opportunity to look at those patterns. It is impossible to pack all of one's goods and not think, "Why do I have this? Why did we ever keep that?" Books and dishes and goods that were once stored separately are now conglomerated and you suddenly see that you have four copies of that James Thurber collection and two sets of the complete works of O. Henry.

Beyond the patterns of material things, I'm looking at the patterns of living. A new house means the new ruts haven't taken hold yet. I want to start from the beginning to establish good patterns and to support those patterns by what I keep and how I keep it. It's slow going. No good pattern was ever made in a hurry.

[identity profile] chestnutcurls.livejournal.com 2011-07-18 08:10 pm (UTC)(link)
I know what you mean. Fresh starts are good!

[identity profile] krikketgirl.livejournal.com 2011-07-20 11:11 am (UTC)(link)
It's true! Even if it wasn't the fresh start we wanted, it's good to shake things up a little.

[identity profile] bojojoti.livejournal.com 2011-07-19 12:21 am (UTC)(link)
When we moved, we discovered so many pairs of scissors! Moving does force you to look over things with a critical eye. For one thing, furniture doesn't fit in the new place like it did when you purchased it specially for a certain nook in the old house. I'm still going through things and determining if it has a use or function in our current home. It's a matter of editing, editing, editing. It doesn't help that I still have boxes of my MIL's things, too. And enough stuff to fill a small house of Bojojr and Bojoette's things.

(I have several books of O. Henry's works--two identical. I also seem to pick up copies of Norman Vincent Peale's How to Win Friends and Influence People at a regular rate! I finally gave away the extra copies--I had three--of Clarence Day's Life with Father.)

[identity profile] krikketgirl.livejournal.com 2011-07-20 11:23 am (UTC)(link)
You are so right! One ends up with so much stashed in various places because that's just where it goes, and then a move comes along and nothing fits just right--even with more space!

[identity profile] moredetails.livejournal.com 2011-07-19 02:12 am (UTC)(link)
I love the fresh starts that moving brings, but moving itself is a drag. I know I haven't commented much, but I feel for you as you unpack! And I've been thinking of you as you've mentioned the whole moving process, because I have done it many times and I know how stressful, tiresome and overwhelming it can get!

[identity profile] krikketgirl.livejournal.com 2011-07-20 11:24 am (UTC)(link)
Thanks so much, Jessica! It's getting better at this point--and honestly, it's so much better than I was afraid it would be. Still annoying and overwhelming, but not so bad after all, which is a total blessing.